“It’s not fair” has recently become a common statement around our house, and I must admit, it gets under my skin. Here is my translation of what these little mouths are trying to say… “I am not getting what I want and even worse, my brother is getting what I think I deserve.” Ugh! It’s just so unfair, right?
This week we were riding along in the car when an “It’s not fair” went flying. We’ve been around the “life is not fair, learn how to deal with it” block countless times, to no avail. So this time I said, “You know what? God is not fair.” Something unbelievable happened, there was actually silence in my car. Seriously. Then D slowly asked, “What did you say Mom?’ I said it again, “God is not fair.” Then I explained, “You’re thinking of fair as everyone deserving equal treatment. You see that your brother is getting a piece of gum and you are not. This makes you think, I deserve a piece of gum too if he gets one. Well, if we really wanted to get what we deserve, we would be in big trouble. Remember how we all have loads of sin that makes us far away from God? What we deserve is death for our sin and being away from God forever. But what do we get? We get life forever with God because Jesus died the death meant for us. Then He came back alive to show that He is more powerful than death. That means that when our bodies die, our soul part can live forever with Jesus in perfect, beautiful Heaven. Do you think I deserve that?” D: “No.” Me: “You’re exactly right. I don’t even begin to deserve it. Do you know how glad I am that God is not fair? I’m so glad He gave me all the good I could never deserve and saved me from all the bad that I really deserve. What about you?” D: “Oh yeah!”
It’s strange but I haven’t heard “It’s not fair” since this conversation. I wonder how many of us also need to stop complaining to God, “It’s not fair” and start praising Him for that exact truth. You’re right, He’s not fair. Instead He is merciful, wise, just, kind, true, and full of light. How thankful I am that He has not given me what I deserve. Can I get an Amen?